How I offer Focusing:
- In Person
I found Focusing after years of debilitating illness. When I was twenty-two, I was diagnosed with ME/CFS and soon I was in a wheelchair. I suffered enormously. My insides felt like they were being shredded by razor blades and then soaked in acid. For many years, I was too sick to watch TV or hold a conversation. The isolation was extreme. I had to fight for every inch of improvement, walking two steps every fortnight before I could increase by another two. Then I'd relapse and have to start all over again. It took over eighteen years to walk for thirty minutes with confidence.
I worked tirelessly to recover. I ate vegan for eight years, paleo for four, no sugar for ten. I tried every treatment under the sun.
It took its toll on my nervous system and by 2004 I had developed extreme anxiety. I then discovered Dr Claire Weekes, an anxiety expert, who spoke of acceptance as a way to healing. It resonated with me. I spent years practising her teachings, but I knew I was not accepting.
It would be another ten years before I found Focusing. But in my first session, I finally tasted the freedom of allowing things to be just as they are. It wasn't simply a belief, it was happening and I could feel the bodily change.
Because, make no mistake about it, allowing is bodily. And it requires skill. I had practised many different methods to help me 'be with' my symptoms and emotions, but they didn't allow for the parts of me that couldn't allow. I trained with Ann Weiser Cornell to become a practitioner in parts work (Inner Relationship Focusing) and I found that helpful. Dr John Sarno's work on chronic pain was also life changing for me.
Now, I have far fewer symptoms, and a different perspective on life, which feels more fulfilling and freeing. I was recently in a serious motorway car crash, and even as it was happening, I found myself going with the flow of it, although I was sure I was going to be killed or maimed. My recovery has been extraordinarily easeful, and I do not think I would have been able to handle it like this before discovering Inner Relationship Focusing (IRF). It was a definite sign to me that I have changed for the better.
I will be forever grateful for Focusing for showing me how to be myself, and how to live more fully. Not just peacefully, but with a sense of adventure, and fun. I love to share this way of being with others, through guided sessions and training courses, as taught to me by Ann. You will find my courses on the courses page on this website. Click here..
BA, HDip (First Class Honours)
Certificate in Interpersonal Communications (UCC)
Certified Inner Relationship Focusing Professional and Trainer with The International Focusing Institute, having trained with Ann Weiser Cornell, Barbara McGavin and Marcella Calabri.
Public Speaking Coach.